Well that’s gone quick! It’s been six months since I woke up after a huge thunderstorm on the day that I would finally become Mrs Duncan – It still feels so weird calling myself that. On the 4th July 2015 I married my best friend in the most beautiful venue, surrounded by our friends and family.
To mark the occasion I wanted to share a few more pictures from our big day on my blog. If you follow me on Instagram you will have no doubt seen a few, *ahem* a lot, already but here are a few more if you care to take a look…
Tell your Bridesmaids the details – I kept almost all of the wedding details secret from our guests and I’m glad I did as I wanted them to be surprised on the day. However, I also kept the secrets from my Bridesmaids which I now wish I hadn’t done, simply because it was a bit of an anti-climax. I didn’t want them to see the dress before the day so I wouldn’t let them come to any of the fittings. As much as I thought it was a good idea at the time and I was excited to see their faces when I was in the dress on the day with my hair and make-up done, that didn’t happen. Firstly, how the hell did I plan on getting into the dress without them seeing it first!? And secondly I had to take it out of the bag as soon as I got it to my room to let the creases drop so they saw it then and let me tell you, unzipping a bag doesn’t have the same wow factor that seeing someone in their dress for the first time does. So now I feel like I would have loved to have had them there to help me pick out my perfect dress and also they will literally do anything to help make sure your day goes perfectly so keep them informed!
Make a scrapbook and Pinterest board(s) – I sifted through hundreds of pages of wedding magazines and thousands of Pins to find amazing pictures from real weddings of things I wanted to incorporate into my day. I would tear pages out for my scrapbook and sit at work pinning things onto my Pinterest boards all so that when I met with wedding suppliers, I could show them exactly how I wanted the end result to be. It was especially handy when picking flowers as I could point to the ones I liked instead of having to research flower names – Nobody has time for that when planning a wedding!
Keep in contact with all of the suppliers and ALWAYS have a backup – On the morning of the wedding I was busily getting ready when I noticed things were a bit quiet in the garden. It was an hour before the wedding was meant to start and there was so sign of the Harpist we had booked. I assumed it was due to traffic so I brushed it off and carried on getting ready. Half an hour passed and still there was so sign of her so I asked someone to go check it out. Basically to cut a long story short she never showed. There was no phone call or anything to say she wouldn’t be here and so at the last minute we had to scramble around to find some music for me to walk out to. I ended up with an iPod playing the same song on repeat as myself and my Bridesmaids made our way down the aisle. It wasn’t ideal and at the time I was so disappointed so I would definitely urge you to always have a backup!
On the evening when it came to our first dance the version of the song the DJ played was the wrong one – It was much, much slower than the one we had wanted so I would definitely recommend sending the correct version to the supplier or even copying links from YouTube – It’s better to bombard them with too much information than not enough as I assumed the name of the song and the artist was enough, little did I know there was more than one version!
Don’t get too hung up on the little things – For weeks I would panic about tiny details that I wanted to incorporate into the day to make it special. There was no need to stress – The things that meant so much to me and that I wanted to get perfect probably didn’t even make that much of an impact on anyone else and that was one of the things I wish I had known before the day as it would have saved me so much time.
Enjoy the day – Every wedding will come with it’s ups and downs but you just have to remember to enjoy the day. When you see all of the months of planning come together and the day finally arrives it can become a bit overwhelming. I was constantly checking to make sure people were ok and that everyone was enjoying themselves and I wish I had just taken a minute to see that everything was fine and I didn’t need to worry.
I know I’m by no means a wedding planner but I hope these little tips will help you get the most out of your day.